Sorry for your enormous loss, Amy. I’ve read everyone’s thoughts and I just believe we should each do what we find we can be at peace with for after we, ourselves are gone and for our loved ones left behind to mourn our loss. Personally, although death doesn’t appeal to me, I’ve considered of course, my options for afterward. I’m still unsure. They all suck really. But that’s the ‘living’ me talking. I thought I might choose a mausoleum but after visiting one several times, lets just say, on those especially warm summer days, both myself and my boyfriend knew we were in the presence of a seriously detectable, unpleasant smell coming from who knows which crypt?? The times I could smell ‘it’, I was horrified and disgusted. I don’t care how natural it is, the still living don’t need to be that aware of that process!