I lost my Mother almost 2 years ago, she & my Dad prearranged their funeral and bought a crypt that they will share when my Dad is called home. We were told that she was placed feet first & when my Dad joins her, he will go in head first so that they will rest head to head. Losing my Mama has been one of the most difficult things that I have ever dealt with and my thoughts aren’t with what kind of physical condition she is in right now but how the visitation and funeral emotionally effected me after she passed away. I was in shock, grieving, exhausted & the last thing I needed to do was stand in a line with my family while dozens of people told me they were sorry for my loss. My oldest brother didn’t even get to say goodbye to her or have time to spend with her due to all of the people continually funneling in. Funeral home visitations are absolutely unbearable for the family of the deceased. It is very important to be able to say goodbye to your loved one & see that they have moved on from their physical body. But my siblings and I have agreed since my Mother’s passing that funeral plans for our Dad will be private consisting of immediate family only. No public visitation or viewing will be held. We are also considering not even having a funeral service & getting our pastor to say a prayer at the casket closing at the funeral home. We need time to say goodbye to our Dad, bury him with our tears so to speak without having an audience present to watch. Like so many have said here, my Mother had gone to paradise she was no longer there & her heart would’ve broken to see how we suffered that much more simply due to a so called “traditional” service. I will be cremated without any kind of service, I will not put my only son through that grief and despair.