I really appreciate this post. I have long thought that large, very expensive funerals were not the way to go. Most people now are struggling to make ends meet and as a “Prospective” funeral participant, I just think is is not a good way to make your family sacrifice to provide a service. My son in law passed away in 2014 after a short bout with ALS. He was only 44 years old with two young children, and did not want a formal funeral. At his suggestion his wife put together a Celebration of Life. We had it on the stage at a local community center. There was a table with some of his favorite things like a favorite Hawaiian shirt, some paintings he had done and things that had meaning for him. There was a large screen behind the table with a loop of photos. There was a keg of beer and sandwiches and desserts. Every one was asked to come casual. Everyone had a chance to talk. It was like one of his back yard partys and everyone enjoyed the get together. Not to say there were no tears, there were, but also laughter. He was cremated and his ashes were there so everyone got to say goodbye. It was amazing for his kids and they still talk about “dad’s party”. They were not traumatized by a formal funeral that the did not understand. They knew their father was not coming home and this was his send off. One other thing that was done is a tree was planted at a favorite spot in their favorite park. colorful ribbons were tied to the branches with message written on them. The family now goes to dad’s tree to play and picnic and just sit and enjoy a little bit of time. I know I am rambling on, but there was so much good about all of it that we remember his life and not so much on the tragedy of his death. Also hospice care was a great service to him and the family. I really appreciate your facebook page….thank you